Authentic Relationship

So the recommended goal I have for students is to not chase peak experiences or more healings or more releases or anything like that, but rather refine the quality of your relationship with your experience. The only thing that you can change or have the ability to affect in life is your relationship with the thing. You can't change the thing. I can't change my anger, but I can change my relationship with anger, and that in turn will most likely change my anger.

So thus, the most important thing to focus on is the relationship with whatever we're experiencing. So authentic relationship is all about finding, for every experience that we're having, finding what is the authentic relationship for it. And so partially it has to do with the quality of the space between you and the thing, and also the amount of space. And so you can change the quality by being more excited or curious or positive about it or interested, and you can change the distance by getting closer to it or farther from it.

So that's how you change your relationship with something, right? You can change how positive you are or how negative you are, or you could change how close you are or how far.