Suffering because you think you shouldn't

So that usually means that you're scared to be here. But the reason why you suffer is because you think you shouldn't suffer. Right? Because you have an idea of how you think you should be, and then you compare whatever is going on to that idea.

And when it doesn't meet that idea, then you are upset. So that usually means that you're scared to be here. So there's something here that's scary. And you're struggling to either recognize it or have the capacity to handle it.

And so then all that patterning is getting kicked up.