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Give control, keep autonomy
For anyone in a relationship who feels they've lost themselves.
What Scott says
But when we give control, it has to be a constant choice. how do you give control without giving away your autonomy? Right? That's the thing.
So before you were giving control and autonomy, and then you didn't have any ability to reference or decide if you should keep giving control. But when we give control, it has to be a constant choice. Right? Otherwise, you'll develop resentment towards the person you're giving control towards.
Right. So even though in my relationship with my wife, I give control for a lot of things, I still have to consciously choose regularly to give that control. If I stop making that choice, then I'll resent her when it doesn't go perfect. But it never goes perfect.
So there's always an opportunity to resent.