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The 13 Patterns

Name: The 13 Patterns
Uploaded: 2026-10-23
Duration: 45 s
Channel: Scott Kalin
Description: How old is the story you tell about yourself? Scott Kalin, The Form of Emptiness.

One way to think about suffering, right, is the more accurate your story is, the less you'll suffer, right?

0:45 · The 13 Patterns · public since 2026-10-23

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one way to think about suffering, right, is the more accurate your story is, the less you'll suffer, right? So whatever your story is of yourself, if it's more accurate, you'll suffer less. If it's less accurate, you'll suffer more. Right?

So if we have a story of who we are that was deeply ingrained in early childhood from attachment trauma, and we learned that at the age of four, and we're 50, we're going to suffer like crazy because that story is not accurate at all. And you're getting all this information from all the people around us in the world that our story in our head is not right, right?