Follow the breath

instead of trying to control your breathing, follow the breath. It's a matter of choosing choosing to give up control. So, we're choosing to give up control to the breathing itself. It's an active choice.

It's both an intention and a softening at the same time. So I have the intention to trust and follow the breath, and also I'm letting go of any sort of control. That is a simplified definition of authentic relationship. In meditation, it is one of the most important pointers: you're actively surrendering.

Somewhere in that paradox between active and letting go, that's where you find yourself.