What does the fear of anger feel like?

Do you not know how to grieve? You could have inhibited grieving. Usually what that means is you have resistance or avoidance of one or more of the emotions of the grieving cycle, such as fear, shame, anger, sadness, loneliness, and emptiness. What's really helpful to fix this is to become very familiar with how each of these emotions feels in your body.

Shame feels like a downward energy where your awareness goes down through your head, down into your chest, and then it disappears into a pit or a pool of emptiness. It often has the sensation of being bad or not enough and feeling lonely. Anger has the opposite energy. It's an upward energy coming up from your solar plexus, up into your chest.

It explodes out like a firework or the sun. It is hot or warm. It has an energy of orange. And then it goes up into your face and you have the urge to clench your jaw, furrow brow.

It also goes down into your arms and hands and you have the urge to make a fist. Sadness is similar to shame in that it's a downward energy. It goes down from the head into the chest and then it becomes this tightness across the front of the chest like the chest muscles. And then deep inside there can be a pain in the heart itself like a soreness or a sharpness or a stretching or a stabbing or a aching or a ripping and it tends to build.

And then each of these emotions is gatekept by the fear of the emotion. So often if you have repressed emotion or inhibited grieving, then you're afraid of the emotions. So for example, if you struggle with anger, then you would be afraid to be angry. One trick is you can move between one emotion to the other.

When you're in shame, you could say like, oh, do I feel angry? Or if you're having a hard time accessing anger, you could say, am I afraid to feel angry? Or what does the fear of anger feel like? And then feel that in the body.

The key to switching from inhibited grieving to healthy grieving is you need to learn to feel each of the emotions. and not avoid them and then learn to feel them in sequence so that you can grieve losses specifically related to endings or changes or transitions in your life. Hi, I'm Scott, a spiritual teacher guiding people through spiritual awakening by embracing our humanness.