When it hurts in the right way, you've found the root of the pattern

Okay, this is hurts in the right way, like an accurate way. So, I mean, my process of it, right, is that first I recognize that the intensity of the feeling in my body is not congruent or accurate, like you say, congruent with the event, right? Meaning, like I care a lot about the suffering of someone else who actually don't care that much about. But that means that it's reminding me or you know, pushing on an unconscious pattern or trigger that I'm not fully aware of or haven't fully resolved.

And so then you can kind of go beneath the story to the deeper story and then try to work with that and then see. And then when you feel it, it, you know, you'll feel like, oh, it's more congruent. Okay, this is hurts in the right way, like an accurate way. And so that must be the place where the, you know, the pattern is starting from or the root of the pattern.