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You lost your own wanting
Meaning all of their wanting and their motivation and their desire is either consciously or unconsciously attached to the desire to be loved, accepted, or not shunned or not shamed by their peers or their parents.
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Meaning all of their wanting and their motivation and their desire is either consciously or unconsciously attached to the desire to be loved, accepted, or not shunned or not shamed by their peers or their parents. So then they've lost connection with their own autonomous desire.