We think that's control

When we experience shame, what's happening is we're basically separating ourself right from our wholeness. And at the same time, we're contracting our awareness in a very specific way so that we're basically only aware of a very small aspect of ourselves or of the world. And then we think that's control. It's just contraction.

But really, nothing is happening other than our perception is changing, but nothing is actually changing outside of that. But because we're not aware, we're basically blocking awareness of the rest of the thing, then it gives the illusion of change or control. So it's really just do I try to get myself stuck or do I not try to get myself stuck? That's the only choice that's happening.

And that's just whether we're contracting or we're surrendering and relaxing. So most control, real control, is just how good are you at going from contraction back to relaxation. And when you get good at that, then the world tends to flow effortlessly. And when you're not good at that, then it doesn't flow that well.

Hi, I'm Scott, a spiritual teacher guiding people through spiritual awakening by embracing our humanness.