You control only your relationship

You get to control your relationship with the judging thought, but not the thought itself. I can't control my judgment. So if you think you can control it or you want to control it too much, then it will have control over you. Instead, we have to go, oh, thoughts are going to happen.

Judging thoughts are happening. Whether we like it or not, they're just going to happen. You get to control your relationship with the judging thought, but not the thought itself. Not the judgment.

If your relationship is very close to it, then you'll believe it, and then you will have your experience. that you don't like If your relationship is farther from it, right, then you will have a choice and you might not contract and you might not believe it so much.