Relationships are trading control

But without that communication, it's not possible because nobody is sensitive enough. for functioning relationships, there has to be control has to be traded because you can't make any synergistic outcomes without trading control. Right. That's why that's how synergy exists is you both do part of a task more than the other, which is giving control, and then you can do something greater together.

But the only way that really works is if both people are vocal and checking and making sure, because I might be in control of somebody temporarily, but I don't know if it's good or not for them. They only know that. And they have to tell me if it's good. And then if not, I go, okay, good.

I'll change my control so it's better. Or, oh, no, this is good. Okay, then we'll keep doing this. But without that communication, it's not possible because nobody is sensitive enough.

It's not, it doesn't, you can't do it. Yeah. You have the only way to be good at control, controlling someone, is by being in your own autonomy and power and being sensitive to them. Right?

Right. If I'm overly sensitive to them, then I'm not connected with my own autonomy and power. And then I won't control right. I'll do a bad job because I won't be able to hear them when they speak up.

Because I'm like, no, no, I know how you feel. I'm feeling how you feel. No, no, that's not fair. You have to tell me how you feel.

And I'll do my best to listen and then adjust. And then over time, we find a system that works for both of us.