The safe place holds the scary part

And so what happens is if you have a place in your body that's this safe, stable place, and then you have this other part of you that's foreign or scary, right? Then you hold them at the same time, you know, that creates this paradox because how can you have this one piece that's stable and safe that's you, and then you have another piece that is unknown and scary and you're avoidant of, right? And so you have this paradoxical experience because they're both happening at the same time. And so then being able to hold both in the paradox and tolerate any sort of tension or discomfort or intensity that arises between the two poles of the paradox directly relates to your ability to and your capacity to get triggered, handle emotional dysregulation, while still staying grounded and connected with your own innate wholeness.